Wednesday, February 18, 2009


I am (figuratively )the gray haired woman at school. There are many levels to this experience. However, today, I just want to say how pretentious university can be. Nothing to do with my gray haired ness, just a view from the real world. How many times can we say, "binary" and "implicit" as well as "fragmented" and "decontstructed"?
I love the critical conversation, but it is certainly difficult to access.

Monday, February 16, 2009

Is daycare making a scrapper out of my girl?

I was a little concerned at the first shove. My sweet daughter kind of bullying the neighbor's sweet daughter. I chalked it up to inability to communicate her needs effectively. Then she did it again. I internally freaked out. What the heck is going on? She is typically very kind, generous and empathetic.
The neighbor's child was younger... and not nearly as strong verbally which could have been a factor. Perhaps C was trying to say something that the other child didn't understand? I was about to take C out of the situation and home due to bad behaviour when another buddy dropped by. C's behavior got better. So we stayed. This buddy was one of her pals from school ( daycare ). I observed them and eventually, the other guy got aggressive with the innocent one as well. It was awful!
There was enough parental supervision that no one got hurt and they are only two years old so they are not exactly capable of severe bullying. Yet, it was disconcerting and made me wonder. Is my child becoming agressive and tough due to the fact she is in daycare?
There definitely seemed to be more of a scrapper in the one's who were in daycare compared to this innocent one that was a SAHK ( stay at home kid ). If anyone is inclined, my question to the universe is: Is there a difference behaviorly between SAHK's and daycare kids?

Friday, February 6, 2009

Toddler books with one parent families?

Is anybody out there? I have no idea if anyone reads this blog or not. Although, having said that I realize there isn't much to read yet. And, perhaps, people aren't interested in 'negativity' which could be seen in my blog so far.

I started this blog because I wanted to connect with other single parents without having to join a single mom support group which, I have nothing against.. but I really dont' have time.

I just want to share my experience and read other's, because I know this exchange of info will be helpful to me in so many ways: parenting ideas, a sense of belonging, a place to outlet parenting issues so that my friends who aren't parents aren't burdened or in an uncomfortable position.

Anyhow - if anyone is reading - I could use some suggestions for toddler books that address single parenthood. Almost everything I've come across is about children of divorce. This doesn't work for me. My daughter's "dad" is not a part of her life AT ALL. This is his choice. So, I need a book where the family is a family with just one mom............................ Anyone?